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Lucy Brown, 38 years old, went out with a man she met from Plenty of Fish, a dating website. Brown recently got back to the dating scene after her previous relationship ended after three years.
Brown, a fashion designer, and her date went to a pub in Clapham and had a good time. However, she messaged him to let him know that she’s not interested for a second date. Moments later, she received this message from him:
“Hi, thanks for your honesty. I had a really nice time with you and the truth is I’m a bit devastated atm having read your note. I really fancied you and saved up some money to take you on a nice date.
“As it didn’t work out I’d be grateful if you could send along something to contribute for the drinks I spent on you thinking I’d at least get to see you again.
‘The total cost of the night was c.£85, and as it’d be too painful to receive the watch in the post and remind me of you I thought that you might be interested to know the cost of that was Euro 20. Happy for you to do what you feel is right, especially considering my badly damaged feelings atm.”
The man ended his message with information about his account number and sort code for Brown to use in sending the money.
By the end of that date, Brown was wearing his watch. She forgot to return it to him. That’s why he told her that the watch costs $21. He didn’t watch the watch, he just wanted her to reimburse him for it because he didn’t want to be reminded of her.
The man already had those feelings after one day. So, Lucy responded:
According to Metro, Brown said, “I had only been using dating apps for about a month, mainly Tinder and Plenty of Fish. I met him on Plenty of Fish and I thought he seemed really nice and normal, with a good profession as I’m a career girl and he seemed quite sensible.”
Brown continued, “I have been a bit of a date monster [before my last relationship], but I’d only been on one other date with someone else before I met him. When I got the text, I was crying with laughter – I honestly thought he was joking. But then I realized he was serious.
“Everyone in my office has been snorting and crying with laughter at the text too. People have just been like ‘oh my god, is he joking’ after seeing the message. My life does feel a bit ridiculous at the moment. I just think ‘why me?’”
Despite the utter rudeness of the request, Brown gave him the refund. She also let him know how funny he sounded to her.
Brown said, “I am a bit surprised – how can he be so devastated about just one date? I only ended up with his watch because we were both messing around and he was wearing my hat, so in return he gave me it to wear.”
She continued, “When we both went to say goodbye we both forgot I still had his watch on. I decided to pay him the £42.50 back for my share of the cost, but I also donated the same amount to a donkey sanctuary.”
Brown discovered about the donkey sanctuary through a Facebook post and thought that it was a great charity to contribute in.
Brown said, “He has since messaged back and he put ‘I feel like the donkey sanctuary has come out better from this situation’. I just text him back saying ‘eeyore.’”
The Donkey Sanctuary was very happy of the donation they received.
Savanna Myszka, publicity officer at The Donkey Sanctuary, said, “Here at The Donkey Sanctuary we appreciate every donation that funds our life changing work. We were very pleased to hear that Lucy continued to support the Sanctuary in such an interesting situation.”
Brown said, “Some of my friends have been swapping funny pictures of people on Tinder. There’s definitely different themes of people’s profile pictures.
Brown continued, “There’s the guys who post pictures of big fish or the sexy ‘come to bed’ ones with grotty wardrobes behind them or those who are half naked. A lot of others post pictures in front of urinals.
“But I’d say this guy who asked for his money back was definitely the weirdest date I’d ever had.”
Going on a date will always be a hit or miss. If one chooses to pay for drinks, however, one shouldn’t expect that the date would go well. It’s all about compatibility.
